This version of Swedish singing sensation Robyn’s “Call Your Girlfriend,” by another Swedish band, Erato, will not scare you, unless you are totally terrified of Swedish women. Its simple sweetness is part of the reason I’m including it here. This version of the song is an acoustic take on a nearly distressingly synthy original, and as you can see, features three ladies sitting around a kitchen vocalizing to some kind of dairy container instrumentation. The laptop-on-the-kitchen-counter filming technique and black-and-white filter just underscore the song’s supposed innocence. But the lyrics are more complicated: a woman is telling her new boyfriend, who has thus far failed to extricate himself from a previous entanglement, to end it now, with care and compassion. More or less, it’s a love song from one woman to another, it’s just that neither of them know it, distracted as they both will be by the guy in the middle. “Don’t you even try to explain how it’s so different when we kiss,” the narrator warns, offering a best practices tutorial on leaving someone for someone else. They’re lessons clearly hard won through experience: “You just tell her that the only way her heart will mend is when she learns to love again, and it won’t make sense right now, but you’re still her friend.”
It’s an arresting song, not about female companionship—these women will never be friends—and not about girl power, exactly. It is a song about how women can demand what they want, but minimize damage to other women. And it is a song about how best to utilize men in service of these desires. In short, it is a song that offers a model for creating feminine allies from women enemies. Not something you can find easily scrolling through the pop charts.
The original is great, too, but this cover version so nakedly displays our vocalists’ compassion and comfort with each other it makes a much better basis for discussing Chan Wook Park’s Sympathy for Lady Vengeance, the final installment in a trio of films on the subject of retribution.
The truly horrible turn that lies at the heart of this one, however, isn’t that vengeance is ever meted out, and humanity thus fails us all in a general way. Nor is it that some poor orphan is, or is not, left to suffer for years while her mother survives prison, and then executes her revenge upon an individual for that lost time. It’s not even that the killer here is a woman. No: the truly horrible turn here is that “the killer”—Geum-ja Lee, played by a very malleable Yeong-ae Lee—is feminine, and uses stereotypically feminine approaches to achieve obscene justice.
Having been wrongly imprisoned for 13 years for the murder of a young boy, Geum-ja Lee is released, and free to track down her daughter, who’s since been adopted by an Australian couple. Morally conflicted about her future relationship with her offspring, Lee has fewer qualms about stalking the actual murderer—and none in regards to sleeping with the young son of her new boss. Her time in prison, too, was spent meting out justice: rapists were poisoned, the innocent protected. A third of the film has Lee calling on these now-freed innocents to assist her in her cause. There is little ambiguity in this mode of vengeance: most of the women imprisoned had been victims of grave and long-standing injustice—sex work, domestic abuse, poverty—and the crimes that put them in jail were merely retributory. When Lee locates her victim, an English teacher named Mr. Baek, a serial murderer of young people, it is clear to all that he does deserve what’s coming to him.
The mode in which he receives it, however, is not the stuff of slasher films or torture porn. For Lee, with all her advance planning and assistance, finds ultimately that her own individual vengeance will not here accomplish the task she seeks. She is not a plodding, thoughtless murderer, intent on harm and ultimate destruction. She is an emotionally affected person, a mother. That she suffers any maternalistic pang of guilt for her intended victim I do not believe—more likely she does not, rationally, think that vengeance is due her alone. So in a most horrifying moment even within the horror genre, Lee forms a committee of those most affected by the killers misdeeds, and a large group of people, as calmly and as rationally as possible, set about seeking vengeance upon a single man.
Shot with hesitation and a half-tic of compassion, the lengthy death sequence could have been played for gore or chills, but the cumulative effect of the group’s collaboration—largely administered by the women involved—is much more upsetting. As in the Erato video, the collaborator/murderers use whatever tools they have on hand. There is no need to be elaborate. A group of people, working together toward a common goal, can always find a way to achieve it.
And the manner in which they do opens up whole possibilities for inducing fear. Our male killers tend to be individualists—they speak loudly, and for themselves. Or plod toward you in a menacing manner with a dripping implement wet from a previous victim. Their success and volume are rewarded with notoriety, but the fact is that you always know when they are coming for you, because they tell you. A taunting phone call, a giant flash of knife, a chilling threat, a scrawled drawing, a newspaper clipping tacked to a wall with your picture on it. In horror movies, our fear is largely constructed from visual and sonic cues. Of course! It is a medium of sight and sound. But what if the ability to commit terror were distilled: What if it could come from anywhere, and involve anyone, and you would deserve whatever they did to you? The less elaborate, sometimes, the more terrifying. And, worse: what if those seeking vengeance against you were truly acting out of love?
Sympathy for Lady Vengeance, Like “Call Your Girlfriend,” is a love song you don’t want to be on the wrong side of.



